A while ago, I was adopted by a stray cat that appeared in my back yard.
I wasn’t too sure where he had come from, but after a few weeks, it became apparent that if he did have a home to go to, he preferred mine. He would be waiting for me when I got home from work: I started to look forward to his appearance at the back door every evening.
At first, I just let him in for food, then he started spending the evening on the sofa with me. Eventually he started spending the nights with me. At some point, I realised he had become mine.
I did the right thing by him. I took him to the vets, had him ‘done’ and chipped! No turning back, he was officially mine.
Since then, I’ve learnt his history.
He was abandoned. His previous owners, who had had him since a kitten, were evicted from their home, they simply left him behind.
Now, he spends all day outside til I get home from work, but he always comes back to me for food, and to sleep on my bed.
He’s not an overly fussy cat, he doesn’t play with any of the toys I buy him, he doesn’t want to sit on my lap. He just wants me to feed him, and let him sleep on the bed!
So, we have been together for over a year now, and I thought we were very happy. And then his behaviour changed.
I can’t recall the exact moment I noticed it, just one of those things, you suddenly become aware of. To be honest, I wasn’t sure that I believed what I was seeing, was actually what I thought it was!
My cat masturbates.
About 4 weeks ago it started. He sleeps on my fluffy onesie, on my bed – always has done. He pads down, which he always has done. I’m not too sure why cats do this, but I assumed it was just to get comfortable.
I won’t go into the graphic details, suffice it to say, it is very apparent what he is doing! And he does it with alarming regularity. As soon as he gets onto the bed, if I disturb him during the night, and occasionally in the morning before I get up to feed him.
Being no expert on cat behaviour, I did as everyone does, and googled it. The results suggested my cat was stressed.
Stressed. My cat whose life consists of eating and sleeping, is stressed.
Now far be it from me to argue with Google, but seriously? The suggested reasons for his stress included house moves, house renovations, disruptions to his routines, being left alone too long, or possibly being bullied by neighbouring cats.
Well, in the last 18 months, we have moved house, I have spent the last 6 months decorating and he does hate strange men in the house! He does get left alone all day, and there is a cat who visits us, and they do end up with scratched noses. So maybe Google has got it right!
But really, I’m the one who moved, who had to sort out the renovations and decorating, whilst also changing jobs. On top of this, trying to fit in time to write, go to gigs, and learn the drums!
But, its the cat whose stressed??!
Really Google? really?!